|JACKIE CHAN: OLD WITHOUT GROWING UP|
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The 60 year old Jackie Chan's autobiography JACKIE CHAN: OLD WITHOUT GROWING UP will be released this month. Yesterday many Mainland media published excerpts that documented Jackie Chan and Joan Lin's experience from meeting to marriage. Joan Lin was the love of Jackie Chan's life. When the shocking Elaine Ng Yi Lei affair happened, he made a severe mistake and once was certain that he would end up in a divorce! He did not expect Joan Lin to say peacefully, "You don't have to explain, you shouldn't hurt other people or let others hurt us. At any time as long as you need me and our son, we can immediately stand up." He was moved to tears and then immediately changed his will to give all of his assets to her. He grew to respect her more and more.
Jackie Chan in the autobiography described himself as a "thug" when he was young. When he went on dates with Joan Lin he would always bring a big group of brothers, feeling that way had quite a presence. When brothers praised Joan Lin, he even BSed and said Joan Lin was after him. He felt that he was able to be his real self with Joan Lin. When he was with friends, Joan Lin would be by his side. No matter what he said she would smile.
Yet at the time their show business positions were quite far apart, the outside did not look upon their romance favorably. When the false news of their wedding spread, two Japanese fans committed suicide. later Joan Lin became pregnant accidentally. He decided to have this child and arranged for Joan Lin to spend her pregnancy in the U.S. He was busy with films and only flew to the U.S. when she was about to give birth. Before then, they had a simple wedding ceremony at a Los Angeles coffee shop. He also admitted that he mistook Joan Lin for being with him only for his money. Looking back he felt he was very immature. Her career at the time was red hot and she was very rich too.
In 1999 when Elaine Ng Yi Lei had a daughter, Jackie Chan said that the media reports at the time were like explosions. He wanted to call Joan Lin but did not know what to say because he had no explanation. This mistake could not be made up for with just an apology. He could only think about divorce. In the end he called Joan Lin, she said, "You don't need to explain, you don't hurt other people and don't let other people hurt us. At any time as long as you need me and our son, we can stand up. I know you are very troubled, don't mind me I am fine, you first take care of your matter." As he listened tears already fell.
Two days later he returned home for a family meeting. He said that he made an unforgivable mistake and thanked them for their understanding. He knew that they had to withstand a lot of pressure. He said sorry, but Joan Lin never spoke. Later he changed his will and left all his wealth and asset to Joan Lin. He also grew to respect and understand her in every way more and more. At that time he realized that he should try to understand her world more. Jackie Chan said, "I don't dare to say that my marriage with Joan Lin is the most perfect, but we cherish each other more and more. We will always be a family."
Jackie Chan in the book talked about his son Jaycee Chan (Fong Cho Ming)'s prison sentence for drugs last year. He said that he too made mistakes when he was young. He was fine after correcting himself, then he was like a real man as he faced everything strongly and independently. He said that he was not a good father but a responsible father. When his son was doing well he would educate him strictly. When he was in trouble he should accept the punishment. If he learned that he has made a mistake and fixed it, he would stand behind his son and get over the hard times together. He recalled that when Cho Ming was very little he hit him once. At the time he was very heavy handed, as he directly picked him up and threw him onto the sofa. Both Cho Ming and Joan Lin were stunned. He felt very guilty about that and after thinking about it he never hit Cho Ming again. Later he bought piano and violin for Cho Ming, but Cho Ming was not interested. He realized that he could not force his own ideas on Cho Ming.
Jackie Chan also mentioned his relationship with Teresa Tang Lai Kwan, saying that the break up was the most correct decision because from the start their personalities were different. Once he and brothers talked about scripts, Tang Lai Kwan said that she wanted to see him. After she arrived he asked her to take a sit. She just sat in the corner. He continued to discuss scripts. After over a hour she stood up and said that she had to leave. Soon his phone rang. She said, "Jackie, I see that you don't need me. You should be with your brothers then."